When you’re in it, the hard moments can be heavy. It’s not easy to have perspective when you’re in it. The cliches that suggest there is a lesson in the hard moments can often be frustrating because when you’re in it you don’t want to learn the lesson. And you certainly don’t want someone telling you there’s a lesson to be learned. The ego part of you is addicted to those heavy moments- they are like emotional gravity. Your ego wants to be miserable and wants to dwell in self pity. Your ego finds an odd comfort there-it finds an attractive identity there- an identity that gets some attention.
But that emotional gravity can only last as long as your lack of awareness around it. Awareness immediately creates space and distance from it and the further you are from a gravitational force the less it can act on you. And upon reflection we rarely see those moments in the same way. We often look back at the tough times with fondness. Perhaps this is because with space we understand that those tough moments are part of the whole process. With distance we realize that the tough times are what shape us as well, if not more, than the good times.
Hindsight often makes it all look easy but it rarely ever is- nor should it be.
